How to Tell If a Cat Has Chosen You
Cats are known for their independence and sometimes aloof behavior, making it hard for people to know when they've been truly accepted by one. Unlike dogs, cats choose their humans on their own terms, and the signs are often subtle but deeply meaningful. Understanding these signs can strengthen the bond between you and your feline friend.1. Consistent Following
When a cat follows you from room to room, it shows a deep fascination with your presence. This behavior indicates that the cat enjoys your company and doesn't want to be apart from you. It's a strong signal that your cat has chosen you.
2. Head Butting and Rubbing
Cats have scent glands in their cheeks and when they rub their head or body against you, they're marking you as part of their territory. This affectionate gesture is their way of claiming you as “theirs.”
3. Purring in Your Presence
Purring is a sign of comfort and trust. If your cat purrs loudly while sitting on your lap or near you, it's a good indicator that they feel safe and bonded to you.
4. Slow Blinking
A slow blink from a cat is often referred to as a “cat kiss.” It's their way of expressing affection and trust. Try returning the slow blink to show your mutual love.
5. Exposing Their Belly
This gesture indicates complete trust. While not necessarily an invitation for petting, a cat lying on its back suggests it feels totally safe around you, making you their chosen human.
6. Bringing You 'Gifts'
Outdoor or hunting-inclined cats will sometimes bring dead prey or toys as “gifts.” They do this either as a token of affection or because they see you as part of their family.
7. Grooming Behavior
If your cat licks or grooms you, it’s a profound demonstration of bonding. This mimicry of feline social behavior shows you’re treated as part of their inner circle.
8. Kneading
Also known as “making biscuits,” kneading is a behavior retained from kittenhood. When cats knead on your body, it often signals love and contentment.
9. Sleeping on or Near You
Cats are vulnerable when they sleep, so choosing to nap on your lap or beside you shows that they feel entirely secure in your presence.
10. Vocalizing Just to You
Each cat develops a unique way of communicating with its owner. If your cat talks to you with soft meows or chirps, it’s a personal connection and a good sign of affection.
Signs a Cat May Not Have Chosen You Yet
- Keeps distance or hides when you're around
- Hisses or swats frequently
- Rarely seeks physical contact
- Doesn't show above affectionate behaviors
How to Encourage Your Cat to Choose You
- Respect boundaries: Let the cat come to you at its own pace
- Use gentle communication: Blink slowly and speak softly
- Engage in play: Interactive toys can build trust
- Provide comfort: Ensure a safe, calm environment
Conclusion
When a cat chooses you, it's a rewarding and deep connection built on mutual trust. By recognizing these signs and reciprocating appropriately, you can enjoy a loving and lasting relationship with your feline friend.
