Why Dogs Are Attracted to Certain People
Dogs form attachments and show preference for specific people based on a mix of instincts, emotions, learned behaviors, and sensory cues. Contrary to myths, dogs are not sexually attracted to humans. Instead, their interactions with us stem from natural behaviors, bonding mechanisms developed through domestication, and individual histories.
Understanding Canine Attachment
Through thousands of years of co-evolution with humans, dogs have developed the ability to form strong emotional bonds with us. This bond shares similarities with the caretaker-infant relationship. Interacting with their favorite humans can elevate oxytocin levels in both dogs and people, reinforcing attachment.
Factors That Influence Attraction
- Socialization: Dogs that are handled gently and positively by people during the early socialization period (3–14 weeks old) are more likely to be comfortable around humans.
- Previous Experiences: A dog that suffered abuse or neglect from a specific gender or physical type may either avoid or be more drawn to certain individuals based on that history.
- Human Behavior: Dogs often respond well to calm, predictable humans who use soft voices and slow movements. Loud voices and erratic movements may cause fear or avoidance.
- Scents and Hormonal Changes: Dogs have a highly sensitive sense of smell and may be intrigued by changes in human scent due to hormones. For instance, a woman’s menstrual cycle may cause increased sniffing or interest, though this is not sexual in nature.
- Emotional State: Dogs can detect human emotions and may seek out those who are calm or comforting, or try to console someone who is sad or distressed.
The Role of Behavior in Perceived Attraction
Much of what is misinterpreted as dogs being “attracted” to people arises from natural canine behaviors like mounting. This behavior is frequently confused with sexual attraction but typically stems from:
- Excitement or play: Puppies may mount during fun or as part of social interaction.
- Dominance display: Some dogs mount to assert control, not as a romantic gesture.
- Self-soothing: Mounting may relieve stress or boredom, especially in isolated pets.
- Medical concerns: Conditions like UTIs or skin irritations may increase mounting; these behaviors should be evaluated if persistent.
Importantly, both male and female, intact or neutered dogs may exhibit mounting behavior, which can be solitary or directed at people, other dogs, or objects.
Gender Preferences in Dogs
Some dogs are more comfortable around women because of higher-pitched voices, smaller physical stature, and non-threatening body language. On the other hand, dogs with positive experiences with men may favor them. It’s highly individualized and shaped by:
- Positive reinforcement from interactions with particular individuals.
- Early exposure to diverse types of people.
- Consistency and routine in care and interaction.
Signs Your Dog Likes Someone
- Wagging tail and relaxed body
- Following the person around
- Excitement upon greeting them
- Leaning toward or sitting close to them
- Seeking pets or licking
Managing Unwanted Mounting
Although mounting is usually harmless, it can be embarrassing or uncomfortable. To reduce inappropriate behavior:
- Redirect immediately with toys or tricks.
- Use consistent cues such as “leave it.”
- Reinforce desired behavior with rewards.
- Watch for medical causes if mounting is frequent or obsessive.
Summary
Dogs are complex, emotionally intelligent creatures that form preferences and attachments for a variety of non-sexual reasons. From scent recognition and body language to emotional bond and behavioral history, many factors shape which humans dogs gravitate towards. Proper socialization, patience, and consistent care significantly influence these attachments.
